One of the things I have to say today might upset some of my Utah readers. And I don’t mean it to. In no way do I want to imply by this post that I believe all people who live in Utah are like this. But many are. Like what? Well, let me tell you. I came to the conclusion today that one of the things that didn’t sit with me well in Utah was the fact that as a resident of the state–at least in Utah County (it might be better in Salt Lake, not sure) you’re not forced to accept a wide variety of people. What I mean by this is that so many of the people in Utah are essentially the same, the need to recognize and respect other points of view is reduced.
The point is, there’s not much variety in Utah. Plain and simple. And since there’s not much variety, people can try to be as accepting as possible all they want, but in the end, they have very little real practice at it. It’s like a muscle that slowly atrophies. I noticed this in myself before I moved, and I didn’t like that part of me. In other parts of the world, you’re forced to interact with people you don’t agree with, or who have a very different background than you. And because there’s such a greater variety, you get better at accepting people for who they are. This isn’t to say that everyone in Utah is bad at being accepting or that everyone in Maine is good at it. It’s simply to say that the scale is different.
Hopefully some of this is making sense. People in Utah used to ask me what I didn’t like about being there. This is one of the things. I’d rather my children grew up in a place where they need to learn to be as accepting as possible. When everyone’s more similar, it becomes too tempting to judge other people. You start to think less for so and so, because they’re handling a situation differently than you would. Or maybe I shouldn’t say “you.” I started to find myself doing that. And it’s wrong.
And that’s all I’m going to say about that.
Anyway. Enough of that. I’ve had some disturbing extended family news recently that’s perhaps making me a tad more reflective than I usually am wont to be. I don’t want to go into it yet, though. So don’t ask. It has nothing directly to do with me, the wife or kids. No worries.
In other, brighter, happier news, we went over to a friend’s house to play Settlers of Catan last night, and we had a wonderful time. Very nice to get out of the house now and then and interact with other people. Baby girl did a good job being out and about, even if she didn’t sleep at all.
NCAA update: I need UNC to win. And I want UCLA to lose as soon as possible. If those two things happen, I will have vindicated my superiority complex and proven once again that I am right and everyone else is wrong. If, on the other hand, that doesn’t happen, I will have shown that I can humble myself enough to allow other people to win something every now and then. 🙂
And now my lunch break’s almost entirely gone, so I must leave you fair readers. Have a spiffy Thursday.